One characteristic often found in energy vampires and manipulators is that they habitually ignore essential points, central issues and fundamental truths. They are out of touch with reality.
Even if someone is able to confront them by telling them some home truths, hell will freeze over before they admit that they have done anything wrong, never mind apologising.
They are like vampires: they cannot or will not see themselves in mirrors; the truth is like garlic to them; they avoid daylight and operate in the darkness. It is best to leave them behind in the remedial school and move ourselves on by learning some lessons that our victimisers will never learn.
Anyone who has been controlled or preyed upon by such people may need to spend some time aligning their ideas with reality, which involves learning some new words and concepts along the way and investing some time in mastering the rudiments of critical thinking.
One of the best ways to start is by getting back to basics.
There are some people who tell it like it is: their insights are weapons that disperse smokescreens and expose the underlying dynamics of sick relationships.
The following statements about obedience from Anna Valerious’s blog Narcissists Suck are good examples of what I mean:
A forced obedience is no obedience at all, but rather it is slavery.
A manipulated obedience is no obedience at all, but deception.
A purchased obedience is no obedience at all, but bribery.
An obedience rendered in fear of adverse consequences is no obedience at all, but self-preservation.
I found the above observations very true and very inspiring, so much so that I came up with some similar ones about the truth:
Believing something to be true does not make it true.
Wanting to believe that something is true does not make it true.
Desperately needing to believe that something is true does not make it true.
Loudly and/or repeatedly insisting that something is true does not make it true.
Avoiding, ridiculing, attacking, persecuting or destroying anyone who questions the truth of something does not make it true.
When these sets of observations make sense and we accept that they are correct, the victimiser’s evil spell will start to dissolve.
Even if someone is able to confront them by telling them some home truths, hell will freeze over before they admit that they have done anything wrong, never mind apologising.
They are like vampires: they cannot or will not see themselves in mirrors; the truth is like garlic to them; they avoid daylight and operate in the darkness. It is best to leave them behind in the remedial school and move ourselves on by learning some lessons that our victimisers will never learn.
Anyone who has been controlled or preyed upon by such people may need to spend some time aligning their ideas with reality, which involves learning some new words and concepts along the way and investing some time in mastering the rudiments of critical thinking.
One of the best ways to start is by getting back to basics.
There are some people who tell it like it is: their insights are weapons that disperse smokescreens and expose the underlying dynamics of sick relationships.
The following statements about obedience from Anna Valerious’s blog Narcissists Suck are good examples of what I mean:
A forced obedience is no obedience at all, but rather it is slavery.
A manipulated obedience is no obedience at all, but deception.
A purchased obedience is no obedience at all, but bribery.
An obedience rendered in fear of adverse consequences is no obedience at all, but self-preservation.
I found the above observations very true and very inspiring, so much so that I came up with some similar ones about the truth:
Believing something to be true does not make it true.
Wanting to believe that something is true does not make it true.
Desperately needing to believe that something is true does not make it true.
Loudly and/or repeatedly insisting that something is true does not make it true.
Avoiding, ridiculing, attacking, persecuting or destroying anyone who questions the truth of something does not make it true.
When these sets of observations make sense and we accept that they are correct, the victimiser’s evil spell will start to dissolve.
