The previous article described in general terms the cutting of personal connections by cult members.
This specific example, which speaks for itself, comes from an ex-member of a religious cult:
“When my sister got married I was not allowed to go to the wedding. My biological family did not matter anymore; it was all merged into a greater unity. Secretly I thought it was terrible not to be able to attend the wedding. I found out later that my sister had also been deeply wounded by my absence.
It was even worse when my grandmother died. On her deathbed, she had specially asked for me. But Lella, who was to bring me there, delayed everything so long that, when we eventually reached the hospital, my grandmother had already passed away. Other family members had been there on time—only I was too late. I felt an intense anger and pain inside. But I immediately knew to put a smile on my face, because my feelings did not matter. I knew that, didn’t I?”
'Lella' obviously delayed everything deliberately. Subtle sabotage and undermining are common practices in cults.
I said this on the old forum:
“It is a very sad subject. The members who cut connections with their families might have a terrible awakening one day when they realise how much suffering they have caused and that it was all for nothing.”
I might add that it is just as excruciatingly painful when they realise how much of the suffering that they have endured was all for nothing.
