This article was created to get some general ideas about injury and revenge out of the way, clearing the decks for action in preparation for a forthcoming article about the way that unseen influences may be at work in some special cases.
Injuries
Where injuries are concerned, self-help guru Vernon Howard suggests that it is not possible for our real selves to be hurt, just our egos or the false images that we have of ourselves.
This is worth thinking about, although the implications may be very unwelcome.
Thoughts of revenge
People may have fantasies of revenge, but if they respect the truth they will realise that these ideas are usually childish, excessive or unrealistic.
As Vivianne Crowley says in Your Dark Side:
“The more disempowered we are in real life…the more elaborate and sadistic our revenge fantasies will be.”
This statement is very true in my experience, and provides another unwelcome insight.
Taking responsibility for our part in the affair
There may be no action that we can take other than to do some inner work and try to understand how and why we let ourselves be victimised and what sort of person our victimiser must be.
We also need to think about what we can do to avoid or prevent similar incidents happening in the future.
This is what better people do.
Was it partly - or entirely - our own fault? Are we bad judges of character? Are we much too naïve? Have we got very weak personalities? People who are victims of energy vampires often attract predators: they may be unable to assert themselves; they may be weak, paralysed, broken even.
And, most important, were we set up to be victimised in a particular way when we were very young?
Perhaps an injury would not have happened if we had not been carrying a load of unfinished business from the past. If we have experienced this kind of injury before, the repetition compulsion syndrome may be at work: our complexes may be dragging people into our orbit and forcing them to re-enact painful scenarios from our past. So who is the victimiser here?
Karmic Retribution: leave revenge to the universe
I once came across an interesting idea about revenge that has stayed in my mind. It was the proposition that instead of being obsessed with taking revenge on someone who has injured us, we should step back, cool off and think about our part and possible responsibility in the affair.
Provided that we take care of our side of things by doing some inner work in this way, the universe will come up with some deserved punishment for the perpetrator that is much worse than anything that we could have imagined and wished for or been able to effect.
In other words, when we refrain from taking direct action against our enemies, karmic retribution may take care of the matter on our behalf. This assumes that we are not too weak or afraid to act, and have said and done everything possible to settle the matter ourselves.
I know from my own experience that this does happen.
Some people who seemed untouchable were hit where it hurt most, mortally wounded even, when they lost their main protector and financial supporter. Even though I had been thinking about revenge I could not have wished for this to happen: I did not know about the close connection between this man and the people who treated me very badly.
We may eventually realise that hell will freeze over before some people admit that they have done anything wrong, never mind apologising. There is no justice and no compensation to be had.
We need to move on and leave our victimisers behind in the remedial school in the hope that life will teach them the lessons they need to learn about personal responsibility, cause and effect and the effect that they and their actions have on other people and the world in general. Their decisions and actions may have unforeseen and unwanted consequences, which they will have to live with.
Injuries
Where injuries are concerned, self-help guru Vernon Howard suggests that it is not possible for our real selves to be hurt, just our egos or the false images that we have of ourselves.
This is worth thinking about, although the implications may be very unwelcome.
Thoughts of revenge
People may have fantasies of revenge, but if they respect the truth they will realise that these ideas are usually childish, excessive or unrealistic.
As Vivianne Crowley says in Your Dark Side:
“The more disempowered we are in real life…the more elaborate and sadistic our revenge fantasies will be.”
This statement is very true in my experience, and provides another unwelcome insight.
Taking responsibility for our part in the affair
There may be no action that we can take other than to do some inner work and try to understand how and why we let ourselves be victimised and what sort of person our victimiser must be.
We also need to think about what we can do to avoid or prevent similar incidents happening in the future.
This is what better people do.
Was it partly - or entirely - our own fault? Are we bad judges of character? Are we much too naïve? Have we got very weak personalities? People who are victims of energy vampires often attract predators: they may be unable to assert themselves; they may be weak, paralysed, broken even.
And, most important, were we set up to be victimised in a particular way when we were very young?
Perhaps an injury would not have happened if we had not been carrying a load of unfinished business from the past. If we have experienced this kind of injury before, the repetition compulsion syndrome may be at work: our complexes may be dragging people into our orbit and forcing them to re-enact painful scenarios from our past. So who is the victimiser here?
Karmic Retribution: leave revenge to the universe
I once came across an interesting idea about revenge that has stayed in my mind. It was the proposition that instead of being obsessed with taking revenge on someone who has injured us, we should step back, cool off and think about our part and possible responsibility in the affair.
Provided that we take care of our side of things by doing some inner work in this way, the universe will come up with some deserved punishment for the perpetrator that is much worse than anything that we could have imagined and wished for or been able to effect.
In other words, when we refrain from taking direct action against our enemies, karmic retribution may take care of the matter on our behalf. This assumes that we are not too weak or afraid to act, and have said and done everything possible to settle the matter ourselves.
I know from my own experience that this does happen.
Some people who seemed untouchable were hit where it hurt most, mortally wounded even, when they lost their main protector and financial supporter. Even though I had been thinking about revenge I could not have wished for this to happen: I did not know about the close connection between this man and the people who treated me very badly.
We may eventually realise that hell will freeze over before some people admit that they have done anything wrong, never mind apologising. There is no justice and no compensation to be had.
We need to move on and leave our victimisers behind in the remedial school in the hope that life will teach them the lessons they need to learn about personal responsibility, cause and effect and the effect that they and their actions have on other people and the world in general. Their decisions and actions may have unforeseen and unwanted consequences, which they will have to live with.
