There
is an expression that has always grated on me:
"Not I, but God in me” - or paraphrases thereof.
"Not I, but God in me” - or paraphrases thereof.
There
is another expression that I find very amusing:
“The
Devil Made Me Do It”!
I
see these slogans as the two sides of the same bad coin; both
promote avoidance of personal responsibility.
The
first expression seems to me like false humility and the abdication
of personal credit, but some people find it helpful and inspiring.
Being reminded of it recently gave me the idea of finding some
helpful and inspiring mantras for myself.
I
thought of one very quickly:
“Of
course they do” - with variations and permutations of he/she and
does/did.
This
expression can be used to explain some people's behaviour in terms of
unseen influences and subterranean sabotage. Here are some examples
of what I mean.
Stella Gibbons' father's legacy
Stella Gibbons' father's legacy
The
father of the novelist Stella Gibbons was a violent alcoholic. He
wasted much of his money and spent a lot on drink. However, when he
died he left £2,000; this was a decent amount of money in the mid
1920s.
He
could have split his estate between Stella and her two younger
brothers; he could have left it all to Stella, who was very
responsible and would have put it towards her journalism studies; he
could have left it to the middle boy, who wanted to be a doctor; he
actually left the lot to the youngest boy, the one least likely to
make good use of it. He was rather unstable - “the years of fear and
insecurity had wounded him deeply” - and he squandered the money in
less than a year with nothing to show for it. The other boy was
forced to leave school and take a mundane job.